(From a confessional piece by Christina Kelly, former editor of Elle Girl, YM, Jane, and Sassy.)
"Why do we crave celebrities? Here's my theory. To be human is to feel inconsequential. So we worship celebrities and we seek to look like them. All the great things they have done we identify with in order to escape our own inconsequential lives. But it's so dumb.
With this stream of perfectly airbrushed, implanted, liposuctioned stars, you would have to be an absolute powerhouse of self-esteem already not to feel totally interior before them. So we worship them because we feel inconsequential, but doing it makes us feel even worse. We make them stars, but then there fame makes us feel insignificant. I am part of this whole process as an editor. No wonder I feel soiled at the end of the day."
Follow Vedanta @SwamiDoseDaily · Apr 24
The moment you take anything personally you're finished.
Do You Take Things Personally? Learn How Not To
By Carol Chanel
Who doesn't want to know how not to take things personally?
Every time I say I help people learn how not to take things personally they always respond - oh, I need help with that.
So how do you learn not to take things personally? I remember people used to tell me that all the time and I really wanted to stop, I just didn't know how.
Let me give you an example. I remember the first man I really loved left me - 'rejected' me - for another woman. I really loved this man and thought he loved me. How could I not take that personally? It felt personal and a lot like rejection.
How did people do it - not take things personally? Did they have some secret system? Did they have a code, some kind of DNA that I didn't have?
Well I don't know about everyone else and here's what I learned. The reason we don't need to take things personally is because it's not personal.
How can that be? Isn't the person who is standing there screaming and being mean to me, saying something about ME? Isn't the boyfriend who just went four days without calling me, saying something about ME. Or how about the girl friend who just broke up with you for another guy, isn't that personal, isn't that about ME.
Maybe your boss was really cool and aloof today, 'isn't that about ME?' you ask. How about your mother who spent your entire life not being affectionate and warm, 'Isn't that about ME?'
Do you understand where I'm going with these questions? The operative word in those scenarios is ME. And here's the key. Drum roll please! When someone is doing or saying something to you, it is about THEM not you or ME. It's about THEM.
So the boyfriend who I mentioned broke my heart and 'rejected' me turned out to be a coward, a drug addict and basically a sad human being. He went off with a woman who could take care of him, financially. When I saw him years later I realized I had been spared a life of misery.
If you hear yourself say 'I can't believe they did or said that to ME', then you need to stop, take a deep breathe, and realize you used the ME word about someone else's behavior.
We make ourselves the important part of the interaction, when the truth is the other person is making themselves the important part of the interaction and that's why it's about them.
That's why it isn't personal. It isn't personal. It isn't about you.
Let's look at the aloof boss. I had a client whose boss was the most abrupt man in the world. And she thought it said something about her. He was just condescending, abrupt, contemptuous, overworked and that was just his professional life. He was also cranky. Guess what? She ultimately realized it wasn't personal, and that it didn't work for her to be intimidated by him. That's empowering when you can say, 'This doesn't work for me.' But as long as you take it personally, then you feel badly about yourself and you won't change your situation.
By the way, that particular client gave it right back to him one day and the whole dynamic shifting. He wasn't a bad guy, he was just a bully - as long as he could get away with it. And he didn't have a large enough support staff to help him, so he was irritated and cranky. They have a good working relationship now.
As we heal there are less and less raw spots for others to hit and hurt. There are less opportunities and reasons for us to react.
Life Sayings @TheLifeSayin · 11m11 minutes ago
Your past has passed. Nothing will change it. You're only hurting yourself with your bitterness.
Being fearless precisely when you are most scared is the best hack. - James Altucher
Inspired thoughts we absorb almost daily on social media and that one large sign erected above Larkin at Turk at Goodrich Tires with one witty riddle we casually scan and then tuck them away for safe keeping, eventually come back to trigger a bountiful purpose. Relax and let it be so...
"I'm letting no man handle my bank account."
Rhett Butler: Have a drink of sherry, Mammy. Mammy, she is beautiful, isn't she?
Mammy: She sure is.
Rhett Butler: Did you ever see a prettier one?
Mammy: Well, sir, Miss Scarlett was mighty nigh that pretty when she come, but not quite.
Rhett Butler: Have another glass, Mammy. What's that rustling noise I hear?
Mammy: Lordsy, Mr. Rhett. That ain't nothing but my red silk petticoat you done give me.
Rhett Butler: Nothing but your petticoat? I don't believe it. Let me see. Pull up your skirt.
Mammy: Mr. Rhett, you is bad. Yeah, oh, Lord!
Rhett Butler: You sure took a long enough time about wearing it.
Mammy: Yes, sir, too long.
Rhett Butler: No more mule in horse's harness?
Mammy quote: Mr. Rhett, Miss Scarlett was bad telling you about that. You ain't holding that against old Mammy, is you?
Rhett Butler: No, I ain't holding it against you. I just wanted to know. Have another glass, Mammy. Here, take the whole bottle.
Daniel my brother you are older than me
Do you still feel the pain of the scars that won't heal
Your eyes have died, but you see more than I
Daniel you're a star in the face of the sky
"Painting is freedom. If you jump, you might fall on the wrong side of the rope. But if you're not willing to take the risk of breaking your neck, what good is it? You don't jump at all. You have to wake people up. To revolutionize their way of identifying things. You've got to create images they won't accept. Force them to understand that they're living in a pretty queer world. A world that's not reassuring. a world that's not what they think it is."
as quoted by Kalmweiler in The Rise of Cubism
Pablo Ruiz Picasso was born in Malaga, Spain on 25th October, 1881. A sexual and passionate scorpio, He was a sun sign scorpio with a sagittarius moon and a showy leo ascendant born at 23:15 hours.